We talked to Katy about her April wedding with groom, Sean, at Mythe Barn in Leicestershire.
Tell us about the proposal – how and where did it happen?
It was in our kitchen while I was making dinner! Sean came in with Thomas, our son, (who was about three months old) and proposed whilst holding him. Although I knew we would get married at some point, the actual proposal took me by surprise and it meant everything to have Thomas be part of it. It was all very emotional and there was a big group hug!
What was your first step in planning your wedding?
Sean bought me a big wedding magazine that weekend to start browsing through and I started a scrapbook of cuttings of cakes, flowers, dresses etc.
Did you use blogs or magazines for ideas?
Mostly magazines. I bought You & Your Wedding most often.
What were your wedding “must have’s”?
The wedding venue was really important to us. We wanted somewhere we could have the ceremony and reception in one place. And somewhere that we felt would be most accommodating for our children (we had another one after the proposal!).
How did you organise your wedding budget?
We tried to organise our wedding to quite a tight budget. We knew that weddings in the UK were becoming more and more expensive and we had not long bought our first house. I had stopped work to look after our children so we had to be really mindful of costs when it came to planning.
What made you choose your wedding venue?
Mostly the look and feel. As a barn conversation, Mythe Barn has a beautiful mix of traditional features with a modern feel. The venue was light and airy and felt really spacious. The huge glass windows made it almost feel like you were part of the outside.
It was also really self-contained and you felt that whatever the weather your day would not be affected.
Describe your wedding dress
My wedding dress was probably the biggest surprise to me as I was convinced I would buy something off the peg from a high street store (partly to save money).
But my chief bridesmaid persuaded me that it would be a really fun day out to just go and look at a few designer dresses and spend the day talking about wedding plans.
We made a whole days’ worth of appointments and at one of them, I tried a dress on that brought us both to tears... I then couldn’t not have it!
It was a strapless ivory lace dress that was largely fitted with a fishtail bottom. It also had a beautiful pearl and crystal brooch detail under the bust. I also decided to opt for a veil.
What accessories did you wear on the day?
A vintage lace veil and pearl earrings and necklace. I wore Elle McPherson ivory underwear and the best bargain shoes I've ever bought. They had the highest heel, were the perfect colour, were super comfortable and cost me £10!!!
What did the groom and groomsmen wear?
The groom and groomsmen chose their suits although I was consulted. They picked grey modern morning suits with short-tailed jackets.
Seeing my then fiancé in his suit for the first time at a fitting made me well up with tears. He looked gorgeous and I realised that the next time I saw him wearing it we would be saying 'I do'!
Tell us about your bridesmaids and their outfits
I had four adult bridesmaids – my two sisters and two best friends. My daughter was our flower girl.
The bridesmaids colour theme was light mocha but they wore different styles of dress to suit their shape.
What was your ceremony like?
We had a civil ceremony at Mythe Barn. My dad walked me down the aisle along with my bridesmaids and a close friend played classical music we had chosen on the piano. Another friend did a reading.
How did personalise your big day?
Mythe Barn is so beautiful and, as that was what attracted us in the first place, we didn't want to over-style things. We kept the decorations very clean and simple with a feel of modern, romantic, vintage. We had candles and flowers in jam jars dotted around the venue and all our flowers were white.
My bridesmaid and I spent the day before the wedding dressing the venue so it had a very personal touch.
Tell us about your drinks reception and wedding breakfast
We had beef as our main meal and tried to pick things that we thought would appeal to most of our guests.
My husband’s speech was probably the best and the most memorable part of the reception; partly because of its emotional value but also because he had written me a poem and it was beautiful having it read to me for the first time in front of all our family and friends!
Did you have a band or DJ for your evening reception?
Yes, we had a DJ. Our first dance was to the acoustic version of 'Everlong' by the Foo Fighters. We picked it because it was just really special to us both. We simply slow danced to it.
Vintage wedding cake
As a cake maker, I made my own wedding cake and was probably my own worst customer! The cake was a four tiered, multi flavour cake that had a vintage feel to it.
I decorated each tier slightly differently with lace, pearls and vintage edible brooches. I then dressed the cake table with poetry books filled with romantic pieces and had some books open with favorite poems displayed. The table was light with tea lights and then scattered with dried rose petals.
Our favours were romantic and fun. We had individual glass Kilner jars filled with jellybeans and then hand tied with paper hearts printed with the word 'love'. These were set on the tables with handmade place settings, which consisted of dried lavender tied with raffia to a small luggage tag with the guest's name on.
How did you choose your photographer?
I found Wedding Photography by Jenny online and picked her because she seemed to offer the most value for money and I got on well with her.
What was your biggest wedding splurge?
Apart from my engagement ring the next biggest spend was my dress - and then the honeymoon!
What was your biggest wedding saving?
Shoes!!! But in terms of biggest savings, then probably the cake and flowers.
Based on your own experience, give us some top tips…
- Don't get carried away worrying about what other people will think
- Don't forget it's YOUR day
- And most importantly, find time on the day to take time out with your other half. Even if it's only briefly. The day goes so quickly and it's nice to sit back and take a glance at quite how amazing the day is!
“If we could do it all again, we’d…”
Probably do it exactly the same (except perhaps a bigger budget to blow on a few luxuries!).
Did you go on a honeymoon?
We went to a luxury hotel in Egypt for two weeks and took our children. We perhaps didn't have as many romantic moments as most honeymooners, but we wouldn't have had it without the children - they certainly made for many laughs and silliness!