Meet the Hag Do: The combined Hen and Stag do


This year, forget about stag and hen parties, it’s all about the HAG do! The traditional single-sex shindig is being replaced by mixed outings attended by friends of both brides and grooms.

Combine the hen and the stag and you find yourself with the ‘hag’, the rather unfortunate term for the shared hen and stag party. As we’re all adapting wedding traditions to suit our own particular tastes, many couples are deciding they’d like to celebrate their forthcoming nuptials together. In fact, the ‘hag do’ has even found its way in to celebrity-ville with Holly Branson and Fred Andrews enjoying separate dinners with their friends before joining together for a rather fabulous party.

If you’re considering combining the hens and stags, the key is to do it well. Let’s face it, very few stags are going to fancy a weekend at a health spa and equally, us girls don’t always want to spend the night downing pints in the local pub. So, just what are the pros and cons of the combined party, and how can we make sure it goes with a bang instead of a crash?

1. It’s a time saver

In the run up to your wedding, one thing you’re generally short of is time. With dress fittings, venue visits, menu tastings and all manner of other exiting planning elements, finding dates for separate hen and stag parties can be tricky. With this in mind, it’s always beneficial to hold the events on the same weekend and, if you’re going to share the date, perhaps you might as well share the party?!

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2. Compromise is key

Finding an activity that a large group of men and women are both going to enjoy will undoubtedly be difficult. If you’re planning on a hag party, consider having separate activities during the day and getting together in the evening for dinner and a party. Under no circumstances persuade your fiancé to do something he really doesn’t want to do and vice versa. The whole point of this celebration is to raise a glass to your final days as a singleton – if one of you doesn’t want to share the party, so be it. You’ll be celebrating together on your wedding day after all.

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3. Elect a chief

Traditionally, the best man plans the stag do and the chief bridesmaid organises the hen party. So who’s in charge when it comes to the hag party? The answer is that it doesn’t matter, so long as they’re organised properly. It does, however, need to be made clear so that the event is well planned. In an ideal world, the best man and chief bridesmaid will work alongside each other, arranging the perfect party to suit the style and budget of all involved.

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4. Sometimes, joint is best

The hag do really comes in to its own if you’re celebrating with friends you don’t get to see often. If there are few opportunities to get together, why would you want to celebrate separately? The same applies if you have a number of mutual friends who want to celebrate with both of you. Get everyone together and have a great time.

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5. You get to be…TOGETHER!

You’re getting married, you’re in love and you want to celebrate together. This is perhaps the most important point of all. If you feel like this and you want to have a joint party, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t. Equally, if you like the idea of the more traditional hen and stag parties, that’s fine too. Decide together what you’d like to do, and go for it!

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