With so many rules and ways of doing things, it can often feel like a constant pressure to do everything the correct way and conform. So to help you out, we’ve got 12 common wedding planning myths to get you embracing doing your wedding, your way.
1. You have to wear a white dress
With the traditional white dress coming into prominence due to religious reasons, it’s totally down to you whether you want to wear one or not. Whilst many feel you can’t beat an elegant white dress on your wedding day, it can be matched in beauty by something coloured, sequinned, tasselled, in varying lengths or even something different to a dress entirely!
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2. You must have bridesmaids
Picking the select few from your friends and family who will get to be your bridesmaids is always a tricky decision to make. You shouldn’t forget that having bridesmaids is totally optional. You can still surround yourselves with your friends on the day, just in a more relaxed way.
3. If you were their bridesmaid, they should be yours
Everyone is in a completely different circumstance when it comes to their wedding, so no one should be expecting that if you were their bridesmaid, they should be yours. It’s an entirely personal decision.
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4. Not seeing each other until the ceremony
With ‘first looks’ where couples see each other before the ceremony, becoming increasingly popular, it just proves you don’t need to savour this moment for the ceremony – you can do it when it suits you.
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5. Friends and family will be delighted to help
It is often said you should get friends and family to muck in as much as possible. But something you need to bear in mind is if it takes away their experience of enjoying the wedding, you might want to reconsider. Getting them involved in the lead up is totally understandable but on the day, any jobs you put on your friends and family should be kept to a minimum if possible.
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6. The bride’s parents should pay for the wedding
With everyone’s situation being different, this is something that shouldn’t dictate your wedding. With modern couples opting for a combination of both them and their parents chipping into the wedding, this is something that has changed over recent years.
7. You have to be christened to marry in a church
Whilst many vicars may prefer this, most churches are happy to welcome everyone in! There may be a few hoops you need to hop to marry in a church that is in neither of your parishes, but it’s best to just pop in and have a word to see what they recommend.
8. Single guests should have a plus one
The last thing you want is for half your wedding to just be a sea of people you don’t know. The same goes for coupled people whose partner you might not know - if you’re after an intimate wedding it is entirely up to you who you choose to invite. No one should just expect a plus one.
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9. You have one year to send out your thank you notes
With everything being so digital now, it’s unlikely you’ll be sitting down and putting pen to paper for all your wedding thank you’s. A year just seems a bit too long to leave it. Instead, head to Paperless Post and get them done – you’ll thank yourself for it later!
10. A DIY wedding will save you money
When you want to save money on your wedding day, wedding DIY’s should be your first port of call, right? Well maybe not actually. Once you’ve bought all the equipment and materials needed, it can often cost you more than if you were to buy it ready made. Whilst there’s is something personal and lovely about crafting your own decor for your wedding day, don’t opt to do it purely to save money.
11. The wedding of your dreams will cost you £££
The amount of money you spend on something doesn’t and shouldn’t equate to the amount of happiness it will bring. The wedding of your dreams can simply be achieved by surrounding yourselves with all your favourite people and by personalising it to you two as a couple. Anything that comes above and beyond that should be thought of as a bonus.
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12. Wedding Planning is Stressful
Many newly engaged couples often pre-emptively dread the wedding planning process from hearing the stresses from friends planning weddings. But honestly, when done right and to the size you can realistically take on – the planning needn’t be stressful.
The WeddingPlanner.co.uk website can be so helpful to lots of couples, as they can track budget and guest lists, create seating plans and sort all their suppliers in one place.