There’s no doubt about it, your wedding is a BIG day and you naturally want it to be brilliant. It’s no surprise that lots of couples feel the wedding day nerves building but you don’t want to spend your day feeling worried or anxious. If you want to know how to beat the nerves and feel fabulous all day long, this feature is an absolute must-read. Serene and calm is right this way…
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Worry-free wedding advice
Firstly, remember that your wedding day is just that – it’s one day. It’s a day to enjoy when you should make the most of every moment and you can do just that if you stay positive and prepare for the big day. When we say prepare, we don’t mean just thinking about your to-do list and ticking off all the items from your planning checklist. Oh no, we mean preparing mentally for the day and that means focussing on yourself, not on the flowers or the favours.
You see, for your guests, a perfect wedding includes a happy couple and an atmosphere that’s full of love. A beautiful wedding means lots of smiles and wonderful, emotional moments. That’s perfection right there and you can give your guests and yourselves that, regardless of your budget, your to-do list or anything else.
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The rest of your wedding might be perfectly imperfect. A few little things might go wrong, something might be forgotten or there might even, heaven forfend, be a decoration out of place. That’s all ok – these things don’t make the perfect wedding. The perfect wedding comes from you.
So, the best advice we can give to banish nerves is to think to remind yourself that you create the perfect wedding simply by being happy and in love. Everything else is extra and although they can seem like BIG things in the run-up to the day, these details aren’t what your guests have come for – they’ve come to see you happy.
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To make sure that you’re in the best frame of mind for your wedding, here are a few wedding tips and tricks to keep wedding day nerves at bay:
- Remember that being tired isn’t good for a bride or groom. Try to get as much sleep as you can the night before the wedding so that you’re ready to face the day.
- Keep out of any conflicts or issues on the big day. If anyone is getting uptight, upset or just a bit moody about anything, keep away.
- Your job on your wedding day is not to make everyone else happy, just concentrate on yourself. Spend time with your partner, together and focus on yourselves.
- Keep everything in perspective. Yes, something might not be exactly how you’d envisaged it but ask yourself, does it really matter? The only essential thing on the day is that you get married, everything else is extra.
- Don’t be afraid to escape for a few minutes of peace and calm if you need them. This is your day after all, you don’t need to be on show all the time if you need a little time out.
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Practical wedding tips to banish nerves
Of course, it’s easier to be happy when you’re relaxed and there are lots of practical things that you can do to make sure that you’re relaxed, calm and serene on your big day. If you know that you’re totally prepped AND you remember that your wedding day is ultimately all about love and nothing else, you’ve got nothing at all to worry about. Here’s how to prepare practically for your wedding day.
- Think about potential issues in advance and do what you can to head these off well before the big day. Talk to a trusted friend and make sure you’ve got someone on your side to help you out.
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- Prepare your wedding day emergency kit that can help with those wedding day mishaps – hairspray, safety pins, headache tablets, hayfever remedies… Give this to a bridesmaid or your venue so that you can access this if you need.
- Brief the wedding party. If your best man, groomsmen, bridesmaids and important family members know exactly what they need to do or what you’d like them to be responsible for, they can take care of everything for you.
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- Make sure that someone is your point of contact on the day itself – you shouldn’t be fielding questions from suppliers or guests.
- Allow yourself plenty of time to get ready. Nothing will make you more stressed than the feeling that you’re running late or having to hurry.
- Finally, keep reminding yourself that you’re in love and your partner loves you too. What else really matters?
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