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The Most Important Bridesmaid’s Duties

The Most Important Bridesmaid’s Duties | CHWV

Find out all the important jobs your bridesmaids should be doing!

Now here’s a feature that’s definitely going to make wedding days run more smoothly. Bridesmaids are there to help and support the bride in the run up to the wedding and on the big day itself. Because of this, a bridesmaid’s duties can be really varied and quite numerous. So, the rest of this feature is for all the maids about there and here’s our guide to all those essential bridesmaid’s jobs before, during and even after the wedding.

The Most Important Bridesmaid’s Duties | CHWV

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Before the wedding

Now this is the time that your friend will be super grateful for her bridesmaids and all the help that you can give her. Take a look at this list of the most common bridesmaid’s responsibilities and work out what you should be doing:

  • Get excited – now this one should be easy! Make sure that you’re always there for the bride and be excited with, and for, her. Yes, you might have to look at a lot of Pinterest boards but getting excited with her about all the plans will mean a lot.
  • Go shopping – you should definitely be on-call for wedding dress shopping appointments. Make sure that you’re honest but kind and make the whole occasion as special as possible. Why not arrange a post-shop lunch or dinner to make the day even more memorable?
  • Plan the party – this is the big one. The hen party. It’s yours to organise so really go to town here. However, remember that it’s your friend’s celebration so plan something you know she’ll like, even if that means you plan something that wouldn’t necessarily be your choice. Your time will come!
  • Be a friend – planning a wedding can be tough and it can also be a bit of an emotional rollercoaster. Be a friend throughout it all. Make sure that the bride knows she can always talk to you if things get too much and offer support if you think she needs it.
  • Prepare for emergencies – put together an emergency kit for the wedding day so you’re totally prepped if anything goes wrong. Think blister plasters, headache pills, deodorant, extra makeup and hairspray, spare tights and even indigestion remedies. Who knows what you might need!
  • Make things easy – your friend is planning her wedding and juggling lots of things on a huge to-do list. Make things easy for her by doing what you say you will on time and with a smile. You might think that she’s edging into bridezilla territory so it’s up to you to steer her away from that place and that means not adding stress into a stressful situation.
  • Attend events – whether it’s a rehearsal, a family dinner or even a trip to a wedding showcase at the venue, make sure that you’re always the first to reply to invitations with a resounding YES. There’s more to being a bridesmaid than wearing a nice dress and walking up the aisle so you’ll need to be prepared to get involved.


The Most Important Bridesmaid’s Duties | CHWV

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On the wedding day

Of course, this is the day when everything comes together. Expect to be busy for large portions of the day and whatever you do, don’t stop thinking about the bride and how you can make her day even better.

  • Help the bride – getting ready for a wedding is a big moment. Be there for your friend and help her get ready. She might need help doing up her dress, putting on her jewellery or just unpacking everything she needs. Be there for her and remember that this is her day and you’re there to make it brilliant.
  • Keep things calm – whatever is going on during the morning of the wedding, keep things calm. If suppliers need to check something, get them to speak to you rather than bothering the bride, put together a chilled playlist, make sure that everyone is in the right place at the right time and make sure that any issues are dealt with so your friend has nothing at all to worry about.
  • Bring food! – wedding days are long days so make sure that your bride is looked after on the morning of the big day. Bring food or arrange for room service so that she’s hydrated and has got plenty of energy for what’s to come.
  • Know the cues – it’s important that you understand what you need to do and when to make the ceremony run smoothly. Will you take the bride’s bouquet? Where will you sit? When do you hand the bouquet back? Who are you walking out with and in what order? Know your cues so that everything runs like clockwork.
  • Mix and mingle – it’s your job to be a professional socialite at the wedding so work the room (or beautiful garden) while everyone’s enjoying drinks and canapes. Make sure that elderly guests are well looked after and if anyone looks a little lost or lonely, head in their direction.
  • Help the bride (again) – before photos or the big entrance into dinner, take a little time out with the bride to make sure that she’s looking her best. Crack open your emergency kit and bring out anything and everything she needs at just the right moment.
  • Speak if you want – more and more bridesmaids are giving speeches and we’re all for this. If you want to say a few words, explain how amazing the bride is and make a toast to the newlyweds, you absolutely should. Speak to the bride about this in advance so your speech can be announced at the right moment.
  • Get the party started – as soon as the first dance is over, you should be on the dancefloor. Whether you’re shuffling with your partner or showing off your best moves with the bride tribe, it’s doesn’t matter. What matters is that you’re there to encourage everyone else to party.
  • Say goodbye – you should definitely be there to say goodnight or goodbye to the newlyweds and even help organise their send-off if they’ve got something planned. Yes, this means you can’t head off for an early night or get too merry too soon but you need to make sure the end of the day is as great as the start.


The Most Important Bridesmaid’s Duties | CHWV

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After the wedding

Oh yes, bridesmaids still need to be on form even after the wedding is over. This is a really important time because once the excitement of the day has passed, those offers of help tend to dry up. Show your friend just how important she is to you by being there post-wedding too.

  • Tidy things up – depending on your venue, you might have to do a little tidying post-wedding. Remember that many hands make light work so if you all help out, the job will be done that much quicker.
  • Take things home – if guests have bought cards or gifts to the wedding, someone will need to take them home and look after them so make sure this someone is you. There might also be keepsakes or items that the couple have made themselves and ensure that these aren’t forgotten either.
  • Plan a little social – it’s likely that your newlywed friend could be feeling a little down after the excitement of the wedding day and honeymoon is over. Why not plan a little social for her so that she’s got something to look forward to? Dinner or an afternoon tea is a great chance to talk over all the details of the day again.
  • Love the photos! – as soon as the photographer sends the photos back, make sure that you’re there to look through them all. Being interested in the day even after it’s over will make your friend feel really loved.


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