For too long, weddings always followed the same pattern and for many years, they were all about tradition and following ‘the rules’. But now, we can throw that old-fashioned rule book away! Your wedding can be whatever you want it to be and if there are things that you don’t like or don’t suit your style, you can absolutely ditch them on the day.
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Wedding traditions and rules
We have to start by saying that wedding traditions can be brilliant, particularly if you love what they bring to your day. However, feeling that you have to stick to rules that you don’t like and do things that you don’t want to do just because they’re ‘expected’ isn’t what modern weddings are about.
To break the rules you have to know them, so make a note of all those wedding traditions and decide what you like and what you don’t.
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Once you’ve got your hit list together, cross out all those traditions that you’re just not going to bother with but make sure that by breaking these rules, you’re not going to cause problems. For example, formal table plans can sound like a nightmare but if you don’t have a bit of structure, your guests might not get the right meals and the balance of guests to tables might be way off!
It’s also possible that you might get some flak from family and friends if you decide to leave out some of the ‘expected’ wedding elements. There are a couple of ways to handle this. Don’t tell anyone and just let it be a surprise on the day, or let people know and tell them that you’re planning a wedding that really reflects your personalities and your story.
10 wedding rules you can definitely break
1. The first dance – everyone will be so keen to get on the dance floor that they won’t mind if you skip it or move it to another point in the evening.
2. Being escorted up the aisle – another easy one to swerve or adapt if you want. Walk up on your own or accompanied by anyone you choose - it doesn’t matter.
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3. Bridesmaids – if you’d rather include your friends in other ways, do it. They don’t have to wear matching dresses to know how special they are.
4. Throwing the bouquet – why would you want to throw this away? And let’s be honest, being able to catch doesn’t mean you’re going to get married does it?
5. A three-course meal – serve street food, family-style sharing platters or world inspired dishes. What matters most is the people and the atmosphere.
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6. Wedding favours – they can be fun but will anybody really miss them if they’re not there?
7. The top table – your wedding meal should be fun so if you want to sit with your friends or sit on your own, do it.
8. Not seeing your partner before the ceremony – instead of sharing that super romantic ‘first look’ with all your guests, why not see your partner before the ceremony and share the moment in private?
9. Wedding cake – if a stacked wedding cake isn’t your thing, forget it. Serve cheese or pies or set up a doughnut wall or self-serve cookie bar. Make the moment your own with something you really love.
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10. The gift list – don’t want more ‘stuff’? Then ask for contributions to your honeymoon or opt for charitable donations instead. Or, if you want something really modern, concentrate on ‘social gifting’ where you ask your guests to ‘do’ something to mark your wedding rather than simply cracking out their credit card.
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