For a long time, the prospect of the best man speech has not been one that brides and grooms have looked forward to. Full of corny jokes, inappropriate tales from the stag do and stories that will embarrass the groom, the best man speech was frequently more of a flop than a fantastic moment.
However, the modern best man speech isn’t like that. It’s brilliantly written, full of humour that everyone can appreciate and, quite often, it explains why the groom is such a great guy. Our best man speech advice will make sure that every speaker gets a fantastic reception.
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Must-read best man speech advice
It’s fair to say that the prospect of making a best man speech can make even confident public speakers nervous. You’ve got to be funny and sincere and make sure that whatever you say is suitable for all ages. That’s a lot to ask so you need to plan your writing (and yes, you absolutely do need to write it – this isn’t the time to make something up as you go along!)
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So, before you start writing the speech itself, make some notes. You’ll need a few funny stories, some meaningful moments, a couple of great anecdotes and a good intro and conclusion. You might also want to speak to the couple to find out if they’re making toasts (and who you’ll need to toast in your speech) and also who you’re speaking after.
Then start writing. Write an introduction (that thanks the previous speaker and even introduces you to guests you don’t know) and ensure that the first paragraph will grab everyone’s attention and make them listen to you. If you compliment the couple early on, you’ll get a cheer which will give your confidence levels a boost!
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After that, move on to the stories and anecdotes but please, remember that this is a wedding, not the stag do or a night at the pub. Make sure your stories are ones that everyone will enjoy because nothing kills the mood like an awkward silence or a frosty reception. Poke a little fun at the groom but definitely don’t take him to pieces in front of everyone.
Then you might like to move on to the meaningful section – tell everyone why the groom is so great, why the couple are so fantastic together and how you wish the newlyweds a long and happy life together. Finish with a toast and take your seat to tumultuous applause!
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Essential best man speech tips
Now it’s time to edit your speech to make it perfect and to get ready for the big day. Here’s the best best man speech advice:
- You don’t need to speak for any more than five minutes. This is enough to make an impact without anyone starting to get bored.
- If you want to use props, go for it. Just make sure that they’re not too complicated and that they’re also big enough for everyone to see.
- Ditch any ‘jokes’ about marriage, previous relationships, the bride, bad behaviour on the stag weekend, sex or Brexit.
- Give yourself plenty of time to write your speech and practice it. Avoid being the last-minute best man!
- When you practice, read your speech out loud. Things sound different and you’ll be able to alter any lines that are tricky to read.
- Write your speech and take it with you on the day. Even if you’ve got a great memory, take a paper copy (reading from your phone doesn’t look great!) on the day.
- Remember that a best man speech doesn’t need to be all about the laughs. You want a few funnies, for sure but mix things up with some more meaningful moments for maximum impact.
- On the day, take your time and speak clearly and loudly so that everyone can enjoy your fantastic speech. Don’t have too much to drink until you’ve given your speech and remember to make it clear to everyone why you were chosen to be the best man – because you’re brilliant!
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Now you know that your best man is going to shine on the day, make sure that you do too. We show you how to be a well-groomed groom right here.